"Love: when the getting and the giving all run together."
- Ronald E. Nantz
I promised myself I wouldn't write about Valentine's Day, but I've been thinking about it a lot, so that must mean something. Dr. Phil didn't help matters when he presented a Valentine's Day surprise for his wife, Robin, on his show today. He also tried to help a poor "unromantic" husband learn how to be more attentive in ways his wife would appreciate. All day, things kept happening that made it seem inevitable that I'd be opining about love and romance tonight.
So what makes tomorrow so special to the female of the species? Try forgetting it, and you'll probably find out, but maybe not in a way you'll enjoy. Personally, I think it's a time when your spouse or significant other expects you to reveal your softer side and profess your love in a way that she will remember and makes her feel special.
A card is the absolute minimum that you can get away with, trust me. To make the day memorable for her should be your objective, and a card, while it's thoughtful, may not be something she'll remember 10 years from now. Flowers sometimes work, but again, not too memorable--unless perhaps when you were dating and lacking funds, you gathered a bouquet from the field between your house and hers and presented them to her when she anticipated nothing.
To be memorable, your gift must be something she wouldn't expect from you. Put on your thinking caps, guys. What could you do for her that she'd never in a million years envision you doing?
If you've never written her a letter, that's an idea. Creating your own card, as in hand-drawn, might be good too. Whatever it is, you've got to convey to her that it took some time and thought on your part--and that it came from your heart. Go to a little trouble, do something that requires some effort. Picking up the phone and ordering some posies is a snap bro, and taking the easy way out just doesn't cut it in terms of creating memories. Loving her, it shouldn't be that difficult to come up with something really unique. It'll be worth it. Promise.
4 comments:
I love this entry! I want to make my fiance read it, lol. You really have said it like it is, most women don't care about fancy presents and expensive gifts, we just want our fellas to show they love us!
Juls
So, OK Nantx. What did you do????
Stood on top of the house naked with "Be Mine" written on my butt in red lipstick, and a long-stemmed red rose between my teeth. The neighbors loved it, but Lisbeth kept saying, "Get down from there you fool!!" Memorable? Possibly.
This was a WONDERFUL entry. I will have 'he who is the object of my desires' read it when he makes the thousand mile treck to see me this weekend! Thanks for tellingi it like it is..or like it should be!
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